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Ad. 1 Some asexual people in relationships might choose or even want to have sex with their partner as a way of showing affection, and they might even enjoy it.
Ad. 2 It is also important to keep in mind that sexuality can be fluid. Sexual inclination and identity may, but does not always, change over a period of time.
Ad. 3 If you have a fetish that doesn't involve attraction to other people you may find it useful to identify as asexual.
Ad. 4 I used to experience sexual attraction. Does this mean I'm not asexual? [...] If you find that you have little or no sexual attraction to other people now, then you can choose to identify as asexual.
Ad. 5 Since masturbation produces a pleasurable sensation, many asexuals choose to use it to take pleasure from their bodies. Some asexuals can only arouse themselves manually (by applying friction to sexual organs), while others can turn themselves on with thought or even outside stimulus, such as pornography or erotic literature.
Ad. 6 This community is not about elitism; it's about people who share the common factor of having very little or absolutely no sexual attraction to other people.
Ad. 7 if they do think about other people or view pornography, these interpersonal interactions are only fantasy. If an asexual were actually given the opportunity to be sexual with the fantasized person(s), there would be no sexual attraction, or the attraction would be so low as to be completely ignorable.
Ad. 8 Still more, some asexuals may be considered autosexual; they are sexually attracted to themselves and as such take sexual pleasure from their own bodies.
Ad. 9 Other asexuals masturbate because they have a personal sex drive (libido) that they wish to take care of privately; they may experience arousal as a biological response to outside stimulus and wish to relieve themselves of it without a desire for partnered sex.
Ad. 10 As with masturbation, some asexuals find the experience of sex pleasurable, even if they do not desire it in the way that someone who feels sexual attraction does. If you use sex in an effort to connect emotionally with your sexual partner, or to compromise their sexuality and your asexuality, rather than because of an innate desire to have sex with your partner, then that need not contradict an asexual identity.
Besides wishing to connect with a sexual partner, there are other reasons why some asexuals choose to participate in sexual activity. The motivation might be curiosity or experimentation (a good proportion of asexuals have tried sex at some point in the past). Certain aspects of sex might be sensual and enjoyable enough to be motivation for some people even without sexual attraction or drive. Even if it is not immediately desired, sexual release can certainly be pleasurable for an asexual; think of it as not being hungry but still enjoying an ice cream cone.
Ad. 11 Some asexuals want romantic relationships because they experience romantic attraction. These asexuals get crushes and fall in love just like romantic sexuals do, except without the desire for sex.
Ad. 12 Asexual people may also be incapable of having sex, the distinction is that they are unlikely to feel particularly uncomfortable about this as long as they are otherwise healthy.
Ad. 13 As for traumas as a child, there are asexual people who are survivors of abuse, just like there are in any orientations.
Ad. 14 Identifying as asexual isn't committing yourself to abstinence, it's recognizing how you work. You can have relationships and you can be sexual if you so choose.
Ad. 15 Some of these asexuals find it helpful to use pornography to speed the process along. While not sexually attracted to the people in their erotic materials, asexuals with sex drives can sometimes pick up a general feeling of sexuality from such materials.